I would dance, but someone called me fat and clumsy. I used to sing, but it was way too off-key. I always had a laugh, but wouldn’t ya know, someone thought it was fake. I used to trust, but he said I was naïve. I was positive, but life beat me down. I love to feel beautiful, but many have said that makes me ‘an ungodly Christian.’ I feel like myself with my short hair, but others said it made me un-dateable. I would have smiled, but she said I was being too flirty. I offered my heart, but you took advantage of it. I loved to bake, until someone said it wasn’t healthy enough. I once had an idea or two, but they said I was too bossy. I once had a voice, but was told it was too loud.
Faith… In religious circles, we throw that word around, as if we all have it all figured out and our lives are perfect. We encourage people to ‘keep the faith,’ but, come on, what does that mean? We sound like God is our everything, don’t we? Oh, and then there is the question we all ask when we are alone or tired – “How do we make this easier?” “Am I doing it all right?” and “What is the formula for a great walk with God?”
Conflict is never about changing who you are. It is merely a difference in how people think about things. Haven’t we all heard, “Conflict is going to happen, you need to get used to it.” And yet, I still hate conflict. As in, I hate it some much that I would rather change my name, leave everything I know and move states (or countries) just avoid conflicts. But, I’m still here and I’m still learning to deal with disagreements. Here are some of my methods to working through issues…
Ask the workout buffs among us, and they will have very strong (pun intended) opinions about the best ways to work out. Some will tell you that the best way to train is resistance training (such as with stretchy band thingies or large tires or putting a jump rope around your legs as you attempt to swim against the hot-tub current). Others will tell you that the best way to work out is to grunt and yell and push 500+ pounds over your head as you convenience the entire gym that you are more dramatic than you are smart, since obviously you don’t want to use a spotter to make sure it doesn’t drop on your head.